Your mum didnt used to live in shap, Cumbria did she? Nothing untoward you remind me of a fella who was military and used to visit his mum who was a neighbour to one of my family members.
Switched on news before bed. Top story is that the police have found a body that they think is the poor lass Gaia Pope. Can you imagine? ****ing tragic.
No for me, it has to be a choice and those who make that choice tend to made of the right stuff or at least want to be.
I'm not so sure tbh mate. Now don't get this wrong but what you said above re 17 and army or cell resonates with me as I know loads of blokes I went to school with who joined up as a last resort and it made men of them I also had family members who's joined up for variety of reasons but it was the making of them, for example a step uncle who joined up as his step family were not brill. Spent 18 years in the army
My point is that you have to realise that you're on the wrong track and want to change it. Making someone who doesn't want to be there go could be a problem and especially in the modern world. It helped me but I knew I needed to get away or I was ****ed and I knew I didn't want to be the person I was becoming.