ive given up my season ticket (never be a card) stopped going to matches, declared myself a stay away, been to one match in 18 months, but when we get beat it still destroys my family Saturday night, at least when I went I would come home pissed off pissed and fall asleep, now at tea time I’m a sober grump I’m sick of supporting this ****e, I don’t think Ellis has a clue of the impact it has on us supporters. Make the right appointment and shove some money in or die on more than one level
I just drink at home mate, a few whiskeys in and the result is forgotten. Better than being depressed and sober. As for weaning yourself off your club it's never going to happen.
I don't give anything my time unless it gives me something positive back. Stopped caring about what happens really. I'm a **** fan nowadays. It's no coincidence I'm happier for not dragging that depressing sack of **** on my back.
I lost the feeling of hurting after a defeat, quite a while ago. I'm generally out doing something with the bairn now on a Saturday afternoon so I haven't been keeping up with the games lately.
I find it best to be out somewhere with limited phone reception on a Saturday afternoon, or whenever we're playing. That way I don't go through the inevitable agonies of us throwing it away again. I tend to get out to the North Yorkshire moors with the dog and only find out the final score when I get back to the car!!
Sorry to say you are stuck with it for life mate but you will finally go completely numb in a few years I was looking through the whole league this morning and i don't think there is a worse run club than ours anywhere how the f uck did we get in this position?
I haven't attended matches for a number if years,for varying reasons but come match day I'm either sat watching Jeff Stelling or following the match on the computer. As for caring I'm slowly becoming immune to the inevitable result these days with a shake of the head, the alcohol doesn't even help. My main distraction these days is watching my grandson playing for the village under 11s, young kids fully committed giving their all either when they're winning or getting beat. Sadly we can't say that about the so called professionals at our club. I have realised that I'll never be able to give up on my club its been nearly 60 years since my first match at Roker Park, its in the blood and you can't do anything about that IMO.
I’ve been going since the early 60s In them early days home and away. Since the s,o.l. I’ve had a season ticket most of the time but it’s only this year I’ve had my first card. I stayed away for a few years for various reasons work,money etc. I returned hoping to gain the atmosphere again. I still enjoy my day but I’m now returning home after a day on the drink no a happy man. We need a spark and something big to happen to bring back the happy times
I stopped going in the early to mid 90's. Since Sunderland and football in general became an economical and emotional rip off.
I believe that once time passes, today passes, there's no getting it back. It's gone. So if one thing is going to spoil my today. and another will keep me happy, then you have to think of yourself and do the option you prefer. Unfortunately that sometimes means dropping experiences , or people, that you're so used to, but why destroy yourself for others who aren't bothered about how you feel.
I still go! I can't stop going! (this isn't a "I'm a better supporter than you" just I'm as sick of it as you are. Imagine my pain though - at least you could get pissed before the match and fall asleep after. I work every saturday without fail! Meaning I have to drive after the match and can't get pissed! Have to say I agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. Not sure any of those "in the game" (chairment/managers etc.) realise the impact it has on the average fans' life. I lose sleep at times on a match night and sometimes the night after. Lie awake wondering what's happening to my club and wishing I had the ability to change it. Have just re-started playing golf! Gave it up when I got married as it was golf club membership or season ticket (agree - it'll never be a "season-card") and I chose the latter as it's a "me and my boy" thing. When it comes to the end of this season I may think about the golf again!!
When I was a kid I used to like Sheffield Wednesday who were a local side that all the lads at school supported, unfortunately a passing gypsy cursed me and here I am supporting Sunderland. I sometimes wonder if I'd be happier if I'd stuck with Sheff Wed. Probably. Who knows what the future holds though.
Same here, mood changes, it's unavoidable. Just cause we don't want to care doesn't mean we don't. It's like being in love and trying to fall out of love, it's virtually impossible, you just angry and frustrated and sad, but remain in love.
I missed a game through choice for the first time against Bristol City and it was a bit odd. I totally get where folks heads are like, it’s not been an enjoyable experience, not had that buzz for it for a long, long time. I prefer to flip it and think I look forward to that reminder of the buzz off the team doing well, assuming that ever happens again I’ve only 60 years or so left on the planet...
