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  1. FedLadSonOfAnfield

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    I met this girl online, we chatted through that for a while then moved it to messaging, took about a month to meet in person. She initially got in contact with me online

    Like you say, with dates it gets to a point where the expense and effort start to rack up and you have to move the relationship on, I think that's where we're at here and maybe it's just not come out well, that conversation. She asked me if I was seeing anyone else last time we were together and she isn't. I dunno if she wants it to be gf/bf situation or something else, normally in my experience exclusivity doesn't come up until around the two month mark if things go well, not that there's a schedule for those matters
     
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    You let your friends read what you write on here?
     
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    #needy
     
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    A month isn't long, but depending on the quality of time together it might be enough to fall in love or have serious feelings.

    It's all it took for me to fall for my wife. My wife is my first love. A month in with all the others and I knew it was going nowhere. A month in with the Mrs. I was in love. When you meet the right one it's different. If she feels like you're the right one a month may not feel like too soon to be close.


    We accidentally started dating in September. Before Xmas one morning were having a conversation, I don't remember what specifically about, she said something like "when we're married we will have to do ABC" I replied, "no when we're married we'll have to do XYZ."

    Then it struck me... 3 months in talking about when we're married... Not if we marry. I realised we both knew by that point that was where it was heading.

    Got engaged in February, married in August. 11 months from accidental date to marriage. <laugh>

    Now, granted, I would have tried to take things slower if we weren't 3 hrs apart and didn't have to go all week apart... Our dates typically lasted an entire weekend at a time.


    Anyhow #lifestory was to say, I don't think one month is too early to develop close feelings. When things feel right emotions can move along quickly.
     
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    It's turned into ****ing Mumsnet in here, you set of absolute Marys <laugh>
     
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  7. FedLadSonOfAnfield

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    Was just gonna say the same lad <laugh>

    @Matip is Liverpool King is the worst one here, the ****ing sop
     
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    Met my Mrs in December, engaged the following February and married in the August. Just celebrated 20 years of happy marriage, we have been married 30 though!!
     
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    I hate you.

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  11. Milk not bear jizz

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    My Dad always used to say he knew Doris Day before she was a virgin, a line I think he pinched from Groucho Marx
     
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    You've hit on something very important there - don't invest more than you can afford to lose.

    From what you're saying now it looks like you're trying for a more settled type of relationship but quite rightly, this early on, still want to be free and easy. She's the one wanting more emotional attachment. Alarm bells! You probably know in your gut whether this one is worth more investment. You sound like you're pretty switched on as to what you want.
     
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  14. FedLadSonOfAnfield

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    Yeah, I know what and whom I'm after

    And exactly that, until there's clarity I'm keeping my full and usual level of independence

    There have been moments when I've felt 'the feels' with this one but there's no way I'm letting those out of their ancient bone-strewn neolithic cave until I'm dead sure that she's wanting the same ... so hence we have this situation where neither of us really knows <laugh>
     
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    Sometimes yes, she sits next to me in work.
     
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    What did she read, from what I wrote, out of interest ??
     
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    On the same chair?
     
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    That wouldn't be next to me..
     
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    Friend of @luvgonzo

    If you're reading this... Slap him for us...
     
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    The page where I first responded. She said I was right but I had written it like a twat of a man.
     
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