Anybody read this? No words, I struggled to finish it. http://www.skysports.com/football/n...s-first-child-grief-and-the-joy-of-parenthood
No parent should ever have to go through the grief of losing a child, but sadly it happens. Big respect to the guy for finding the strength to come out the other side of this.
Well done to Harry Arter for sharing his story. Hopefully this can help him and anyone else who has suffered this horrendous experience
The worst possible thing that could ever happen to any parent. We got lucky twice and I often think about our good fortune when I observe our two. Our first was premature. He was healthy but had to go to SCBU for a spell and we saw some really tiny kids, some of whom possibly didn't survive. Truly heartbreaking. We were told that our second kiddy had miscarried only to be told a week later that the scanner had made a mistake. That week was horrendous but at least it was a mistake. Massive respect to Harry Arter and so pleased that he's got a lovely family now.
****ing hell mate. What a mistake to make. You must have been put through the mill that week. My wife and myself have been blessed with a daughter, she was born at home and she's a healthy, happy and lively little 4 year old. I remember ****ting myself through the pregnancy though, thinking 'what if something goes wrong?' and when she was being born at home, I remember thinking 'we are 40 miles away from the nearest maternity unit'. I guess it's just natural parental anxiety, but I was so relived to see a little baby girl, 10 fingers and 10 toes, everything in the right place and breathing and crying like a newborn should.
It wasn't much fun. Probably the worst week of my life and we only told Mrs Stan's parents so getting through work and avoiding phone calls was tough. We went for the usual early days scan and were told there was no sign of a heartbeat. We had to go back a week later for a follow up scan to confirm things. Clearly the scanners aren't given a case history as she matter of factly said everything looked fine which came as a very pleasant surprise! The pregnancy went on to be very difficult but we're blessed as we have a beautiful daughter. Nothing tugs at my heart strings more than the suffering of kids and the immense sadness some parents experience. #grenfelltower #manchesterarena I can't imagine the pain Harry Arter and his wife went through and I have huge respect for him speaking out about his experience.
The worst phone call I have ever taken when was a mutual friend of ours called us to say that our friends four month old son had died overnight. The friends live in Spain and the mother had told her best mate who told us. The dad is one of my best mates, we spent many years sharing a shouse. Was just numb. I then phoned his parents and me and his mum cried a lot down the phone to each other. I don't know if/how I would handle anything happening to my own three kids, it's my ever present fear and even thinking about it, I work away in the week so it does enter my head, is difficult to handle. All three are perfect and healthy but you never know what can happen, it's gut wrenching. My friends have had three more kids since and everything is ok but this will never be forgotten. It was just before Christmas too, which always seem to magnify things. Dreadful.
Between our eldest and middle child we had two miscarriages, both around the 6 month mark. The second was twin girls. (I told the Mrs. When we married I wanted identical twin girls... Never expected it to happen, twins don't run in either of our families.) It hurt, but I'm sure nowhere even close to how much it hurts losing a child that has been born and you've grown to love.
I can't even handle thinking about losing my son. Not sure I'd even want to carry on after that if I'm totally honest. I'd have to find the strength somewhere as I have other people dependent on me, but **** me I'd find it hard.
